Everyone Is Having Babies.

Everyone is having babies, and I’m TOTALLY cool about it. Yep, that’s right, as one of my favourite friends has just shot out baby Lottie (ok, she didn’t shoot out Lauz, I’m KIDDING), and another is preparing to shoot Aimee Jnr out in 8 weeks time (I’m relying on her keeping my name alive), I’m TOTALLY COOL WITH IT.

Everywhere I look, people are pregnant and having babies. My social media timeline is filled with bumps and bundles of joy, the school run was filled with discussions of baby names and new sparkly prams. AND I AM FINE.

Because of course, that’s it for me. As everyone is preparing for these new little people entering their lives, as they’re up overnight wishing for sleep, I could not feel further away because of course, my baby is starting school in September.

We decided to stick at being a family of four a long time ago, and in my head, I’m sure this is the right decision. I mean, after quite a few years of toddler pain – and I’m sorry, he was a turd a lot of the time – life is getting easier. The boys are playing together, I’m going to be able to work school hours without the guilt, couples weekends are easier for both us and the poor suckers who look after the little mons… cherubs. Life is easier. Why would I want to change that?

But my womb is rebelling. It’s kicking me in the gut, and making my brain think funny things such as “oh how I miss baby sick in my bra” and “potty training – it wasn’t so bad.” BOTH LIES. After all, last summer while we were on hliday, I saw my future and I liked it.

There were two families by the pool. The family with the young children, and a baby who was hot bothered, hungry and tired. The mum looked exhausted, and hadn’t even bothered to bring her book with her. I mean, let’s face it, she couldn’t have fitted it in the suitcase full of STUFF you need to survive an hour by the pool. Then there was the other family, the ones with the teenagers who visibily loathed their parents, sat far away listening to their ipods soaking up the sun, while mum and dad sat with their books and a second bottle of prosecco in their ice bucket.

I wanted to bet that family.

And not just because I’d had to apologies to a family for Larry using the tree they were using for shade as a urinal. I liked the relaxed feeling they had, I liked the amount of books they’d read, I LIKED THE PROSSECCO!

So we’re going to be a family of four. This is cool. I like that I can have a teeny tiny car, and when we climb in it to go, I can sort out our playlist while the boys sort themselves out. I like that at traffic lights, we can air guitar, rather than listen to the screaming of a baby that cries every time the car stops. I like that at the supermarket I can do that Super Nanny technique of getting the little feckers to find things off the list.

But my womb is playing games with me. It’s exploding as I walk to the gin aisle, swerving me left to gaze in amazement at the new range from Ella’s Kitchen. THEY DO CEREAL NOW GUYS!!! I will never get to buy baby cereal again. It’s making me think that Weetabix in my toes wasn’t so bad, and it’s telling me that the smell of baby rice didn’t make me bork like I remember it doing. It’s actually telling me that I wouldn’t mind not drinking in excess of nine-months if I got a brand spanking new baby, with that baby smell, and it’s little curled up legs and quiet snuffles.

STOP IT WOMB. Can you imagine how vile I’d be if I didn’t drink for that amount of time? Just ask Mr. Aimee how Dry January was in the Horton household – it was not good.

But think how much money we’d save if I didn’t drink, and I was much happier with my pregnancy figure – after all, it stretched my muffin tops out. Plus, as my womb is reminding me, and are you listening to this Mr Aimee being pregnant makes you clean at some point doesn’t it? I remember getting stuck in a cupboard, I remember scrubbing some skirting boards. In fact, I’m getting flashes that those skirting boards might actually be white not a blue/grey shade that the seem to be now.

My head reminds me of the sleepless nights, the constant laundry, but my womb reminds me that Larry still doesn’t sleep through the night, and never in my life have I seen a child get a white polo shirt so many different shades of dirt.

So who is going to win the battle, the womb or the head? Well neither, the head has a steady ally in the name of Mr. Aimee, who, if we’re frank, is mainly ruled by is wallet and his sleep. But if we’re also honest, probably remembers a very poorly wife during both pregnancies. So poorly that we’re not sure if her body could make it through another. A Mr Aimee who probably doesn’t want me, or him to go through another c-section – and that would have to happen – and the scar splitting four months later again. So Mr Aimee’s head is having to rule for both of us, and while my womb is fighting madly – I’m trying to remind it of all the pro’s of having two healthy boys who don’t poo on the floor now (although they don’t seem to wee in the toilet either!), of me being able to eat my dinner with BOTH MY KNIFE AND FORK instead of one handed, and most importantly, I get to enjoy the boys when I like them, rather than the last three years when frankly both of them nearly drove me to getting into my car with my overnight back, and hiding out in a hotel until one of the many boarding schools I’d been researching take the little feckers.

I need to remind my womb that I’m not sure I could write another novel – my dream job – with baby brain.

Pass the gin – if I can get through Larry starting school, hopefully my womb will happily go into retirement and be happy to just snuggle other peoples babies, and give them back when they shoot poo down their leg.

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  1. Mummy Tries

    I think lots of mums with two kids go through this, but the womb ache passes most of the time, and they happily stick to two… Once they’re both at school you’ll have all that extra time on your hands to write and another baby will probably seem, well, inconceivable 😉

    Hope you’re having a fab summer xx

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  2. @SarahAnneDG

    This is the struggle going on in my head too…but reading this has made me realise that if we’re going to do it we better do it soon while we’re still in the hell of toddlerdom and don’t know any better!

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  3. maddy@writingbubble

    I have three but that was the number I was aiming for. For me it was silly womb wanting no. 4! Perhaps our wombs always want one more than our brains?! Thankfully, though my womb kicked up a stink when my youngest turned 1, it has since gone into retirement. I suspect it might jump around a bit when my youngest starts school but it won’t get its way. Life is so much easier when they are older and can do more stuff independently. I’m currently gearing up to potty train my youngest next week. Sigh. And as cute as he is he has certainly hit the terrible two’s. Bet once school starts and you have all that time to write and no reason not to drink and plenty of sleep your womb will calm down. I do empathise though. Other people’s babies are cute without the exhaustion and vomit which is always a temptation! Xx

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  4. (Mostly) Yummy Mummy

    For a time, we were done at two but my womb started to scream so loudly that I couldn’t ignore it and along came number three. And number four SURPRISE! I think Mother Nature has a way of making us think we want just one more!

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      Aimee

      I agree – it’s why they’re so gorgeous at the same time as they’re throwing themselves on the floor because they can’t have cake for breakfast (to be fair I do understand that). I must admit, I watch your gap and wonder WHAT IF… 😉

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